to live with a person you dont really love

Thefadeone · Post by **Thefadeone** » Thu Mar 25, 2004 12:43 pm

How hard could be for a person share a life together with another one who dont really love even when the other do?

There are ways to make this situation soportable?

Jackson Monk · Post by **Jackson Monk** » Thu Mar 25, 2004 3:26 pm

laughingcrow · Post by **laughingcrow** » Fri Mar 26, 2004 5:11 am

I suggest therapy...

failing that, lots of junk food.

verbal gymnastics · Post by **verbal gymnastics** » Fri Mar 26, 2004 5:22 am

I once read "If you can't have the one you love, love the one you have" but I don't think that works. Does it?

Copenhagen Fan · Post by **Copenhagen Fan** » Fri Mar 26, 2004 5:23 am

be a man and dump the bitch

selfmademug · Post by **selfmademug** » Fri Mar 26, 2004 7:55 am

verbal gymnastics wrote:I once read "If you can't have the one you love, love the one you have" but I don't think that works. Does it?

No, indeed it don't. Not unless you want a life of martyred misery. And thanks again, Cope, for your subtle insights and analysis.

Otis Westinghouse · Post by **Otis Westinghouse** » Fri Mar 26, 2004 12:29 pm

'Soportable' = 'bearable'.

You can't make yourself love someone (in your mind) you don't (in your heart). if love has been lost, you can try and recapture it. If there was never love, or only in one direction, it's unlikely to happen.

Jackson Monk · Post by **Jackson Monk** » Fri Mar 26, 2004 4:17 pm

How very true

bambooneedle · Post by **bambooneedle** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 11:06 am

A good buddy of Elvis once said, "if you love somebody set them free".

And if you don't, set them free anyway.

selfmademug · Post by **selfmademug** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 12:02 pm

Ugh. Ugh, ugh, ugh.

bambooneedle · Post by **bambooneedle** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 12:22 pm

I know... trite. But it's the thought. What else can you offer a mysterious poster(?)

Jackson Doofster · Post by **Jackson Doofster** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 2:21 pm

there is clearly one of us in pain. You are amongst friends......please reveal your real anonymous nickname...

crash8_durham · Post by **crash8_durham** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 2:30 pm

A good buddy of Elvis once said, "if you love somebody set them free".

Was that Sting?

selfmademug · Post by **selfmademug** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 3:07 pm

Bamboo, those 'ugh's were not directed at you or anyone here. They were just the most intelligent comment I could make on this topic at the moment, and sadly I was/am too affected by it to keep my cyber mouth shut.

My advice is threefold:

1. Don't waste more than a year of life trying to recapture lost love. It's a long shot. Worthwhile, maybe, but a long shot. I spent about five years trying this and all it got me was blame, contempt, and belittlement.

2. Don't count on being let go. Most people would rather hold on to whatever aspect of you is comforting to them, and fuck whatever pain they're infliciting in the process.

3. Don't take advice from bitter people. It's always so negative.

godgivemestrength · Post by **godgivemestrength** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 5:56 pm

there's only me and my dog (gilbert) and we do fine

selfmademug · Post by **selfmademug** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 6:24 pm

Well, that is edifying.....

laughingcrow · Post by **laughingcrow** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 6:40 pm

Sorry for being flippant earlier...I wasn't sure whether it was a serious post, and if it was I apologise.

Sadly I'm not fit or able to give any advice, but hope that you find happiness and truth in your life.

bambooneedle · Post by **bambooneedle** » Mon Mar 29, 2004 7:34 am

Mug, ok.

Also directed at no-one in particular: when in doubt, eat chocolate.