I Like a Boy

SoLikeCandy · Post by **SoLikeCandy** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 3:49 pm

This is way off topic, but there are several of you whose opinions I highly value. Perhaps you can help me:

Last semester, there was a gorgeous guy in my class--he's funny and seems to be intelligent, so those are huge pluses. I didn't ask him out because I was in a relationship, but I still had my eye on him.

He's in a class with me this semester as well (what are the odds? There are 30,000 on this campus!), and I'm no longer in a relationship.

I've been in long-term relationships since I was 19, and I've forgotten how to ask a man for a date. I don't want to be a dork and ask him for dinner or anything...how do I ask him out? God, I feel like a 16 year old:

"Do you like me? Circle yes or no."

Yeah. Maybe I'll do that.

miss buenos aires · Post by **miss buenos aires** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 3:54 pm

Find out what cool band is going to play on campus, and ask if he's going to go to the show.

Post by **BlueChair** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 9:28 pm

Or just get to talking to him.. ask him if he wants to grab a cup of coffee after class...

El Vez · Post by **El Vez** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 10:31 pm

"Nice shoes, want to fuck?"

Copenhagen Fan · Post by **Copenhagen Fan** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 3:25 am

Dear Candy

I was just talking to my girlfriend this morning about how men and women relate to each other. I pretty much told her that I (and maybe most men) are a little oblivious to the fact that a woman is interested in them, unless they are blunt! I always just assume that they just like me as a person and are seeking friendship if they show interest. Then she told me that women send "signals"....what are signals??? It could be just a smile, getting his attention with a look and then striking up a conversation with him, and then asking him if he wants to have a cup of coffee after class. A good approach is...."hey, what are you doing after class?" or "what are you doing Friday night"...then see how he reacts. Maybe he'll scoop up the ball and ask you out! Or if he's shy and says, "I have no plans"...then ask him to grab a java java.

Another thing we talked about is the danger of meeting someone one cannot resist. So I have a question for you....You were in a relationship, but yet you saw this guy as someone you "wanted" even though you had a thing going. Was it just that he was irresistable? Or were there probs in your relationship that opened the possiblity up.

My opinion is that as long as everything in a relationship is going well and that both people are turned on and feel love, that no one can come between them. I feel this because I experience that I find no other women attractive now that I'm so much in love....(this by the way is something new for me! Believe me, I've been a girl watcher for years).

Does the concept of total and blinding love exsist??????????????

miss buenos aires · Post by **miss buenos aires** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 8:31 am

Look him up on Friendster, then write him a message and act like it was a total coincidence that you happened upon his profile.

Misha · Post by **Misha** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 11:17 am

I'm with Blue Chair on this....ask him for a cup of Joe, talk, maybe you will find that he's a dolt and not what you thought he was....maybe he's gay now.....maybe he has joined a cult....catch up....throw out some crumbs and see if he follows the trail....

El Vez does have a much more direct route, though....

SoLikeCandy · Post by **SoLikeCandy** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 11:32 am

I e-mailed him last night about a making a study date for our midterm exam. He hasn't responded yet...damn it...

So, I've attempted contact, and made it seem like I just want to get with him to study.

I wonder if discussing Shakespeare's Henry IV could be done more easily naked...?

miss buenos aires · Post by **miss buenos aires** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 11:35 am

SoLikeCandy wrote:I wonder if discussing Shakespeare's Henry IV could be done more easily naked...?

"Hey, you wanna see my Falstaff?"

SoLikeCandy · Post by **SoLikeCandy** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 1:27 pm

I love it, Miss BA! Maybe I'll get to play with his Hotspur...

laughingcrow · Post by **laughingcrow** » Wed Oct 01, 2003 5:23 pm

Yeah Candy go for it! Blokes always like a girl to make the moves (cos were more insecure than ladies are lead to believe).

Post by **spooky girlfriend** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 8:50 am

Candy - keep us posted! I think this could be good. Go for it.

grliegrl21 · Post by **grliegrl21** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 4:54 pm

On a similar note, how long do guys wait now to call? Everyone says something different. 3 - 4 days? I think that's too long, especially when I really want him to call. He is so supercute. I hate 'the rules'.

Boy With A Problem · Post by **Boy With A Problem** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 6:39 pm

Rules are for fools.

double dutchess · Post by **double dutchess** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 9:05 pm

grab his piece!

Copenhagen Fan · Post by **Copenhagen Fan** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 4:52 am

I always call right away! Open and honest.

Guys that wait and use the Frank T.J. Mackey "seduce and destroy" approach are dicks....

AND MISS BA....by the way thanks for not responding to my invitation to be my friend on Friendster....!

SoLikeCandy · Post by **SoLikeCandy** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 8:14 am

I'll be your friend, Cope...just don't tell anyone...hee hee hee

miss buenos aires · Post by **miss buenos aires** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 9:31 am

Cope, which email did you send it to? I never ever check the one I posted here, and my account is under a different one. I'll be your Friendster, calm down.

Copenhagen Fan · Post by **Copenhagen Fan** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 10:13 am

Candy...thanks for the offer of friendship! Of course I won't tell a soul! It's all undercover baby...

and MISS BA...I am calm....just suprised I never heard from you.

miss buenos aires · Post by **miss buenos aires** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 10:50 am

Oh man, I am so going to break 600,000 people inmy personal network by the end of the day!

I need other outlets for my energies. Maybe I should just make up a list of ways for SLC to hit on this boy.

Poppet · Post by **Poppet** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 11:25 am

do that, Miss BA. and post them here.

they might come in handy for more than SLC. "hope springs eternal."

taz · Post by **taz** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 11:52 am

Anybody wanna be my friend on Friendster???

And good luck SLC!!

SoLikeCandy · Post by **SoLikeCandy** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 3:31 pm

I haven't gotten the hang of the whole Friendster thing. I mean, I have a profile but I don't know how to find people.

Geez this is hard...

By the way, no reply for Hot Frattish Blonde. Maybe he doesn't check that e-mail (which is entirely possible) or he read it and laughed.

Sigh.

grliegrl21 · Post by **grliegrl21** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 7:54 pm

The boy called me by the way. He waited two days but it was worth it. We are going out this weekend. Yeah!

Sorry SLC, I hope you hear from your boy soon!

Copenhagen Fan · Post by **Copenhagen Fan** » Mon Oct 06, 2003 11:22 am

Friendster blows....! Maybe it's fun if you wanna get down, but I find it incredibly boring! At least MISS BA is my friend.